Lost baby at 20 weeks

[prov31princess]

I am devastated to say that when I went in for my 20 week check up on Monday, the doctor couldn't find the baby's heartbeat. He did and ultrasound and sure enough, the baby wasn't alive. I had to go to the hospital and be induced and have the baby. It was the most horrific experience of my life. The reason for his early death was that the cord was in 3 knots. Anyone had this kind of experience?

[skipnjif]

oh my goodness...I am so, so sorry to hear this...my heart is breaking for you. I did lose a baby at 11 weeks, and that was difficult enough...I can't imagine how devastating this is for you. my thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope you know there are people out there routing for you. Please keep us posted about how you are.

[preggers]

We are so sorry to hear about your devastating experience. Can't even imagine what you and your partner may be going through. You are in our prayers.
patti and royce

[mom24]

I am so sorry for your loss! :( I will be praying for you and your family!

Shan

[tingzon72]

I can't even begin to express what I feel for you. Many people will tell you to get over it, some will try to comfort you by saying that you can always try again. But, what people forget is that the loss of an unborn child is just as devastating as the loss of a child who had a little bit of a chance at this world. No matter when the loss happened, it is a great grieving process. I recommend that you see a grief counselor before you try to conceive again. Many women try to fill the void by getting pregnant immediately after the loss, and that can lead to so many problems with depression and anxiety. Whatever the reason that this happened, the probability that this will happen again is very low. However, you really do need to resolve your emotions and fears over this before you attempt to have another child.

I hope this helps a little. I am so sorry this happened and I will pray for peace and reckoning for you and your partner. I also hope that you make sure to lean on your partner instead of pushing him away. It's very easy to push someone you love away with grief.

Blessings to you.

Veronica Tingzon

[prov31princess]

Thank you everyone for your encouraging comments and advice. This has been the most horrible week of my life and everyday my heart breaks more and more knowing that my little boy, Kyler, isn't coming back.

[mrjwhit]

My DW and I weep for you. May you recover from this tragic event.

[Precious]

I am so sorry for your loss, although the circumstances are different, I lost my son at 38 wks, I had a placental abruption and there was not way he could have been saved. I feel your pain, I know this sounds hollow right now and its the last thing you will want to hear or believe, the pain does get better, take it one day at a time, I found that talking about the baby really helps, no one knows more than you how much you two were connected, I will pray for you and your family. Talk to someone, it helped me.

[ebhmommy]

OMG I'm so sorry. My heart just broke for you. I have miscarried at 8 weeks before and I'm sure at 20 weeks it was just so much worse. you will be in my thoughts. I'm so sorry for your loss

[prov31princess]

I am SO happy to announce that we gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on Valentine's Day!!! The pregnancy was rough but the end result was way worth it! Nothing will replace our son that we lost, but having our new daughter around is certainly helping with the healing process.

[americantjej]

what wonderful news!
congratulations to you and your family.